First of all, use condoms! Yes that appears simple, but the use of the condom became vital. You do not like that, you find the condom awkward, too thick, too small, too large, etc... and well do not panic!
I am there to help you, and with the following councils, I hope to be able to help you to reconcile you with it, because it is your best ally against the disease, the mortals infections and contraception.
Before the sexual relations:
- Remain calm. Indeed the stress for the boys as for the girls is never good when one must put, or to use a condom.
If you are stressed, speak to your partner, or if you wish not to do it, keep your blood cold, that does not have anything terrible, and that will become with a little practice and councils, a true pleasure. - Have fun, above all. Much useless stress and dislike of the condom, comes owing to the fact that one remains too much serious at the time of the first sexual relationship with condoms. The love is a passion, not a drudgery!
- For those which tremble only with the idea to put a condom, several cases can arise:
- Thus ask your partner to put it at your place. It is very pleasant and you are not likely to lose your erection if it is the case.
- You do not dare to ask him? Put to him the condom in the hand, your partner should understand.
- Does the idea make you lose your erection? Certain Condoms like Durex, Condomi, Manix and Romantic Love Rubber, have forms studied extremely well to be held without obstacle, and with delicacy.
- In certain cases, ask your partner to use the female condom. You will find confidence in you.
- Is your partner or yourself, allergic to latex? no problem, we have Durex Avanti for the boys and the Fémidom Condom for the girls, out of polyurethane.
- You have a sex of very big size? Use Durex Comfort XL, 215 mm length and 57 mm of width. Attention it is the largest condom which you can find in Europe!
- You have a sex of normal size? Use the condoms which have a size ranging between 178 mm and 200 mm length. Each mark presents on this site, has completely normal sizes of condoms. Do not use especially condoms of big sizes, you would be likely to leave it in place or to lose it. More serious, in the event of slip or from skid, your partner and you would not be protected any more.
- You have a sex of reduced size? You "swim in the condoms"? We have a solution, while waiting to have better adapted products; indeed, the condoms on the French territory have on average a size of 178 mm. The sizes from the 160 to 165 mm are very difficult to find, and we negotiate with the manufacturers of condoms to obtain these products too much rare with our taste. The solution that we propose to you, is to use the female condom. Often regarded as a curious animal, it proves very practical in much case. Rather than to undergo a stress, or if you do not find a condom with your size, ask your partner to put a female condom. Speak well before the sexual relations, because one needs a certain practice and a knowledge of its body to set up it. The first time is always a little more delicate.
- You practise sodomy, use condoms like Condomi Strong, or the female condom Fémidom. Yes you read well, the female condom is an excellent choice for sodomy: it is very resistant, is lubricated definitely more than these male colleagues, without latex, and very comfortable for the two partners.
- What is the use of an oral dam? if you are an amateur of the bucco-vaginal and/or bucco-annals practices, this condom is made for you. It is a very effective barrier against the diseases and the infections sexually transmissible. It is appeared as a large sheet and one applies it between the sex of the partner and his mouth, thus constituting a barrier. The feeling is not faded.
- Lubricated, tank? Quecosa? Will know that all normalized condoms (EC, NF, IN 600, etc.) are lubricated and with tank. It is very rare to find models without tank and not lubricated.
- Always have condoms on you ! 24h/24!
H-60 second... It is necessary to find it, put it etc...
- Think of detaching each condom individually ones and others, well before your report, see the day before, that will facilitate the task at the moment to you.
- Do not put the condoms in a box with a recalcitrant lid, you run to the catastrophe! A drawer of bedside table is much more suitable.
- The trousers at the foot of the bed, are a good solution, but if you are in an embarrassing position with the other end of the bed, it will be necessary to find your trousers at the other end of the bed! If you are a little emotive, that is likely to disturb you for the continuation of the events.
- We have an excellent trick to have a condom under the hand, some is the position in which you are at the time of the sexual relations (by supposing that is in your bed):
- Take a complete box of condoms,
- Separate them individually,
- Lay out the all 30cm surroundings between the mattress and the diagrid (go, go, you will see...), by letting them only very slightly exceed. It is necessary that when you touch the zone which this locates between the mattress and the diagrid you feel the condom foil (packing)! L hid too much, you will never find it. Bring out it a little. Lay out them on ALL the perimeter of the mattress!
- And will abracadabra: now, some is the poistion in which you are, it is enough for you to tighten the arm and to grope on the left and on the right with your hand to be sure to find a condom.
- Guaranteed success!
- You can of course use all the box. To reserve for those which have memory. (hihihhi...)
- Never use your nails to unroll a condom. It is very resistant, but a cut can arrive and make the condom unusable.
- If the condom "wedges" in the course of road several things:
- do not panic, if not it is the beginning of the troubles... Remain calm.
- go up it slightly by respecting its rolling up,
- start again to unroll it downwards delicately.
- If the condom is wedged again, it is that it is slightly too large. Indeed, the condoms all are very different, and it is necessary to test several of them before finding "shoe with its foot". In this case, throw the condom and take in another.
- If that starts again, do not insist, and say to your partner. It is nothing and it will include/understand.
- This case becomes increasingly rare, because the manufacturers did much effort of manufacture to facilitate the unfolding of the condom.
During the sexual relations:
- Check how the condom remains in place! That with the idiotic air, but that arrives more often than you believe it. The people a little too pretentious as the size of their sex, a condom badly adapted to the sexual practice, a vaginal dryness, etc..., make that in certain cases the condom can not remain in place. In this case there, to withdraw themselves from the partner, and to retighten the condom on the sex with a hand.
- You feel that your report/ratio is not as fluid as at the beginning, or than that "wedges"? Especially do not insist, stop a few seconds and thus put a little lubricant on the condom, apply delicately to the head and the body of the condom, and take again your sexual relations. If that is not enough, apply lubricant to the openings of your partner. If need be, change model of condom.
- We insist on the fact NEVER of not forcing a penetration; you can create physical after-effects with your partner, tear your condom, hurt you, etc... Use lubricant and all that will occur better... Attention in certain case, it can act of vaginism (impossibility to the penetration at the woman). Then consult your attending practitionar or a sexologist.
- Too much or not enough lubrifié(e)? Use always a little more lubricant, if you are not sure.
- Followers of sodomy, think of your partner: use special lubricant a "sodomy". Indeed this lubricating gel has a viscosity much stronger than the other models. There is Aquaglide Anal, Bioglide Anal andthe Anal freezing of Lubrix. This viscosity is invaluable for delicate penetrations and the quality of your sexual relations will be largely improved by it.
- Very with pété? Above all, not of panic.
- It is necessary to know already for which period one take place these relations in the menstrual cycle of the woman.
- At first you must know that a menstrual cycle begins first during the day from the rules and finishes the first day of the following rules. The menstrual cycle thus does not correspond to the only period of the rules, as opposed to what certain women think!
The menstrual cycle is divided into two periods : the pre-ovulatory period of which the duration can be very variable and the period post ovulatory which, contrary to the preceding one, cannot exceed 14 days (except pregnancy).
The average statistical duration of the menstrual cycle of the woman is 28 days, but certain women have shorter cycles, and different of the longer cycles, being able to gountil several months. Any emotional context can, indeed, disturb the usual duration of the woman cycle.
This variability of duration of the cycle is done with depends on the pre-ovulatory period, and not post ovulatory. This concept is very important to understand the risks of pregnancy at a woman who does not use the pill, or which has relations without condom.
The lifespan of the spermatozoa is of an order from 5 to 6 days and that of the ovum from 24 to 48 hours.
Any sexual relation not protected, occurring during the 5 to 6 days before the ovulation, is thus risky (because of the lifespan of the spermatozoa), as during the two days which follow the ovulation, since the lifespan of the ovum can be 48 hours. On the other hand a sexual relation occurring, either more than 6 days before the ovulation or more than 2 days after L’ovulation, would not be, in theory, risky.
The big problem is that a woman never knows when its ovulation takes place because, as it is known as higher, an emotional context can delay the date of L’ovulation !! Thus the risk of pregnancy exists, whatever the date of the cycle, even if the sexual relation not protected takes place right before the date supposed of the rules or right at the end of the rules.Source: Sexoconseil
- Then consult your attending practitionar, or your gynaecologist, who will help you. (Small recall for those which do not know it: the doctor and the gynaecologist, are held with the medical secrecy. That means that, some is the treatments, the actions or simply what you would say to them, that will remain ALWAYS confidential.)
- Last detail: if the condom tore, think of finding all the pieces ! If it misses one of them, consults your gynaecologist in urgency (nothing drama), and asks him to extract the end from the condom which misses.
After the sexual relations:
- Once that you keep back again your spirits, with a hand hold the end of the condom, and with the other accompany the base by the condom to remove it your sex by exerting a light pressure so that the spermatozoa do not escape. Once this action carried out, put the head of the condom downwards, and made a node between your fingers at the base of this one. And throw it with the dustbin and not in the toilets. A delicate attention is to coat it in Kleenex, and to throw the whole. Or the owner of the dustbin will appreciate. The sight of a worn condom can obstruct certain person...
- You want to do it again with your partner, take another condom!
- You do not have any more condoms? Drink a blow, make a part of Trivial Pursuit (!), go to the cinema or make pottery! Seriously, it is better to abstain from to protect you if you do not have any more, passion will be able to wait. And do shopping again condoms at the King of the Condom!
Miss Pandora